James Lord says a background check tells you whether someone has been convicted of a crime, but a reference tells you about their character. He has spent nearly 20 years in HR tech, and the last decade of it focused on references. In 2025 he joined Refapp, a Swedish platform bringing structured, evidence-based reference checks to North America.

Plenty of companies skip references or treat them like a box to tick. James says that’s a risk, especially when you’re hiring for roles that come with trust and access. With AI-polished resumes and teams that are only in the office part of the week, he argues that a real reference is how you learn how someone behaves when you aren’t watching.

If you’ve ever skipped references to close a req faster, or called a candidate’s friend and learned nothing, this conversation is for you.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

  • How reference checking differs from background checking, and why people mix them up

  • Why letting candidates pick any reference they want gets you nothing useful

  • The 180% ROI James calculates for structured reference checks

  • How to get references from people whose companies forbid giving them

  • Why interviews miss counterproductive work behaviors like bullying

  • How one reference turned into a brand-new candidate

  • Why James’s upcoming DisruptHR talk is called “The Reference Check Is a Lie”

Start your extended free trial of Refapp: https://www.refapp.com/hey-laurie-friend

  • 00:00 - Intro
  • 02:33 - References vs. background checks
  • 03:53 - Taking the subjectivity out of references
  • 06:38 - The ROI of checking references
  • 08:40 - How Refapp works inside the ATS
  • 09:54 - Who writes the reference questions
  • 11:46 - Keeping reference answers confidential
  • 13:09 - Getting around no-reference company policies
  • 15:50 - The risks of skipping reference checks
  • 19:01 - Making the need-to-have case
  • 21:04 - Winning over reference check skeptics
  • 22:19 - How Refapp differs from competitors
  • 24:29 - Marathons and life outside work
  • 26:33 - James’s upcoming DisruptHR talk

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